Aw man, now I'm uncomfortable

I don't respond in the most mature way when I think a guy may like me when the feelings aren't reciprocated. Even if he doesn't but I feel like his 'friendly liking' is more than it should be.

I'll get all awkward, distant and avoidy. (it's a word, promise)

Example:
My college friend K was my then boyfriend's (or the guy I dated for 4 lame months) dorm roommate. K was great with the girls, in the way of a girl's boy bff. One night we laid on the chapel floor under the pews for 5 hours talking...about the roommate and everything else under the sun. That's just how he was.

He invited me to see Phantom of the Opera with him and his parents in San Francisco. I went and had a great time. A little awkward, especially when his nephews thought we should "be a couple" and said so at dinner, but his parents are great and I was happy to go.

Over the years I'd go visit, he and the guys would come and stay with me, and we talked on the phone all the time... then we were on the phone while I was driving one night and I got super uncomfortable because he was wanting me to come visit him. Nothing out of the ordinary but (this is where my not so mature self comes in) I didn't like the idea anymore...

I was going through the mountains at the time and had taken the wrong turn and was lost so I was making excuses for not responding to the 'come visit me' offer when I lost reception and dropped the call.

...I never called him back. That was 6 years ago. <mature? a little...>

I still think about him. We have mutual friends, but am happy we don't talk anymore.

That brings us to today.

There is a guy that I feel is "friendly". Maybe it's just how he is, like K was, but being around him more and more is making me more and more uncomfortable. So I'm beginning to get avoidy. (again, it. is. a. word)

I could be completely wrong about it all! I'm really bad at picking up when a guy likes me, usually until it's too late. But I think I've been seeing "signs" and I don't know what to do.

Every time I explain to G-man a friendship I've established with a guy (usually a co-worker) and the dinners we'd go on and the topics we'd have, blah blah blah... G-man would say, 'he likes you.'

I always make a face at him and say, 'ewww, no he doesn't.'

And he insists it's obvious to him and rattles off 5 or more reasons why he SEES the guy who I say is just my friend  in fact has feelings for me.

Who knows! I do know that I am a pro at making things awkward. It's my specialty...don't you agree??

Have I now made YOU uncomfortable?

((and can we please note my gray hairs in this picture?? They've now tripled since then.))

I was able to explain to G-man this story in great detail and he believes this guy has a little crush on me. eek! Still hoping not...

Hopefully this image can be extracted from your brain enough to have a fabulous and enjoyable weekend!

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